Happy Valentine’s Day! I know there are many people out there who call this day “Singles Awareness Day,” people who absolutely hate Valentine’s Day ( for various different reasons) and people who are indifferent to this Hallmark holiday. I say you just have to look at it in a different light. This is the first Valentine’s in a while where I have a significant other so in the years previous to this, instead of moping I’ve just come to look at Valentine’s Day from a different perspective. Although Valentine’s Day has largely become a Hallmark holiday and a day where couples come out in force, Valentine’s Day should be a day filled with happiness, love, laughter, caring and sharing – a day to celebrate all the people you love, not just a significant other. Send a card to your mom and dad, to your siblings, friends, acquaintances, coworkers, etc. just to tell them you care about them and hope they have a terrific day. Take it one step further and tell them something about themselves that you love, whether it’s a personality trait, a physical features, their laugh, or something like their handwriting. It’ll give that person a burst of feel-good and a smile that will stretch from ear to ear.
Take the holiday back from Hallmark and the couples and make it a day to celebrate love and happiness in general. You don’t have to buy a card, you can make one. You could even write a simple note on notebook paper that would suffice. You don’t have to be a couple to go out to dinner, you could have dinner with a close friend. Or, you don’t even have to go out to dinner, you could stay home and cook with that friend. The same goes for couples – you don’t have to go out to a fancy restaurant for Valentine’s Day dinner, stay home a cook, use it as more time to laugh and have a great conversation during the evening. It’s too often that we look at the glass as half empty instead of half full. Spend the day with someone you care about.
My best friend Cass and I have been celebrating Valentine’s Day with each other for almost 10 years. Sometimes we’ll both be single, one of us will be in a relationship, or maybe we’ll both be in a relationship at the same time – it doesn’t matter. We celebrate our love and friendship on Valentine’s Day. When we were in high school we’d usually exchange candy and cards, maybe flowers. When I left for college she’s sent flowers, candy, stuffed animals – all small reminders of how much she loves me. This year she sent me an engraved acrylic keepsake that has the most beautiful poem. I won’t share what I sent her in case she reads this before her box gets to her. But you get the picture, it’s a day for everyone not just couples.
With that food for thought, I will leave to let you ponder. Have a Happy Valentine’s Day!